A Lot Of Updates!~

So it has been since May this last year since I have written anything on any one of my blogs!  Wow, I guess I have been busy.  So here are some of my updates:

I continued from May until fall, dealing with the legal battles in the county.  They are extremely slow in this county (that was said by other county's actually, not just me) and I was also told that they were hanging onto my case because of the other midwife.  So there I sat, waiting for a number of years for them to just 'let it go'. 

Finally-they did.  The case was dismissed.  It is done. There is so much more to all of this too, but nothing I will put into writing at this time. sorry.. 
in time...
maybe I will write a book...

So by the fall, it was all done. FINALLY!

    My husband and I are trying to get the house ready for sale.  We want to move.  Getting the house ready is taking more time than we like, just because we are a bit older...we have a roof to replace,  new garage doors, new doors for our walk out basement area, a front garden that is a mess of weeds to untangle, new front steps and walkway to finish.  Its tough when you're older!  Just a word of warning to everyone-get your work done before you age!

We also bought a camper this past late winter/early spring. Rented a permanent spot at a local campground, and enjoyed relaxing times there.  Below are a few photos.  

The other new stuff in my life-I had a mild heart attack(?) issue last december.  Thankfully nothing was 'clogged' it was all stress related (go figure why I had stress in MY life!) 

Well, enjoy the photos below! 

the camp fire...a work in progress,  it will be larger next year! 

Working on the deck

enjoying the family hammock 

enjoying the pool, with out the work of maintaining the pool!  :)

Now, this photo has a story:  (see below)

Depression: Despair: and How to Help Someone, and NOT Make it Worse!

Ugg.
Yes that is what I say-Ugg.  This society judges people when they are depressed, or at the end of their 'rope'.  I have seen it and over the past 2 and 1/2 years personally having experienced it more often than a human being should.
Then there are those who make it worse because of their judgement which is often just awful!
No one knows how hard a person tries, no one knows what is going thru a persons mind as they struggle with life's ups and downs.  And remember, no one knows when their comments and their attitude or disrespect or lies will be the thing that pushes a person over the edge.  Have you ever 'heard' a person who has cried out for help? When they do-- what do you do?  How do you act? What do you do?  What do you say? Becoming angry with them for having a weak moment and wanting to give up, does not do them any good.  Telling them to get over it does not do any good.  Telling them that others have it worse off than they do does not do any good.  Telling them that it will eventually get better  does not do them any good.    You can always compare their life and someone elses trying to make them feel better, but why? Does that serve a positive purpose?  Does that build up the person who is struggling or does it just pile more guilt onto them?  Ya maybe there is someone going thru something much worse, most likely there is-- at least somewhere in this world.  But comparing that persons troubles to what the person you are talking with -trying to help-that comparing does NOT help them it actually causes more damage.
Here is how to really help a person in trouble:
GO over to their home, talk to them, do their dishes, sweep their floors, help with a payment on a bill, take a casserole, fill their autos gas tank, wash their car, weed their garden, mow their lawn, take them out for dinner.....all things to help them, not create more stress.

Then we have the person who wants to quote scriptures- ones that only pile on the guilt.  Ok, as a believer I do know that YHWH has scripture enough to help with everything in life, but sometimes, you need to leave this job to the HOLY SPIRIT-and not try to be the persons holy spirit-- GOD/YHWH is a big god and can handle HIS job just fine!

Are you someone who is telling this person they are in sin, as you sit there smoking, or eating too much, or are overweight, or cuss all the time, or look at half dressed women on line or in magazines, or watch shows or movies that are not GODLY or uplifting, watch 'cut them up' horror movies, or speed when driving....I can go on and but basically I am saying: pull the beam out of your own eye first folks. Don't tell the person that they are in sin to be depressed or feel like they want to give up on life, when you are doing any of the above listed, or other things.
Ok, I am done 'preaching".