Marriage...Beginning Our Sunset Years...

Marriage Is......

It is sharing and caring, 
Giving and forgiving,
Loving and being loved,
Walking hand in hand
 

Talking heart to heart,
Seeing through each other's eyes,
Laughing together,
Weeping together,
Praying together
 

And always trusting and believing
And thanking God for each other.
For love that is shared is a beautiful thing
It enriches the soul and makes the heart sing.

Helen Steiner Rice

Today is our anniversary, we have been married for 31 years, but actually we have been together for 36 years.  That is a very long time in todays world-which is full of divorce.  At our ages, (54 and 48-almost 49) we are working towards our older years, thus coming what is known as the sunset years.

Here we are -as we looked when we 'met' all those years ago...

I always wondered how people stayed together for so long, and it seems like -wow-how quickly I am 'there'.  Our lives are not perfect, we are not perfect, but what we do have is commitment.

   The other reason we have stayed together for so long is our commitment to YHWH / GOD -and HIS ways.

There are actually 3 of us in the marriage-me, Scott and GOD.  That is the big 'secret' to making any marriage work.  If your selfish and only thinking of yourself, and not the other person, your marriage will fail.  If you do not keep yourself only unto your spouse, your marriage will fail.  Do not look at others and think-if only my spouse was like that, or looked like that...Accept your spouse with out any conditions to change.  Have good listening skills and be ready to say your sorry, then say it and mean it.  Dont say I am sorry, but  (we call it leaving the butt out-I guess that could be considered mooning to leave the butt out! So don't moon your spouse when your sorry!)  So just say those 3 little words-I am sorry- and adding -it was my fault --is a good thing too.!

Sometimes when our children listen to us talk, they get frustrated with how we communicate, but for us-it works.  Again, we are not perfect, but we love each other, so we will keep going in our relationship.

I love my husband, can not imagine life with out him.  As we grow older, the love is not the same as when you are first together, nor is it the same as those first few years.  It becomes a deeper love, with a knowledge that you can not really explain-just need to experience.

Grand Children Visit

the two youngest grand children visited today...we began by eating cheap pizza for lunch, and about a dozen oranges to combat the bad effects of terrible cheap pizza that is full of junk.  (although I did add extra cheese that is real cheese to add a bit of healthy stuff to it!)

No, don't put grandmothers pillows from the couch on the floor.

But look grandma-they make a side walk..

but they are not made to walk on so put them back on the couch...

twirl in a circle until you fall down and hit your head...then come cry to grandma

put the pillows back on the couch...

ok lets go out to the play ground (grandma and grampa's area they built for the grand children, swings, slide, 2 story play house, toys, merry go round, toy little tyke cars to drive around...and a chair for grandma!)

large bee bothering us.  Well actually he just kept coming up and watching us, flying in place about 2 feet away all the time, and after 15 minutes decided he had watched us enough so flew away.

grandma looks for bees nest and finds none.  gotta watch for that in the play area...

kids getting hot, drinking a lot of water...wanting grandma to push them on the swing, but grandma has been on the phone to an insurance company for over an hour...sigh.

Kids tired, hot want to go inside now.  Grandma hot, tired and off of the phone, and wants to go inside too.

Decision to pick dandelions and blow their seeds all over to reseed grandparents yard.  Must not run out.

Grandma decides to have kids pick the yellow dandelion flowers and she will make fritters out of them.

flour, real maple syrup, salt, pepper, a dash of chicken season and some olive oil and mix together and then apply to the dandelions and fry in some hot oil.  yum.

kids try them

one spits it  out after chewing away the flour mixture, and the other swallows his but no-does not want any more

put the pillows back onto the couch

curious george is on...kids like that...

crying, after brother throws a toy truck onto him

sitting on the couch, eyes droopy

grandma must stay awake

twirling and twirling (not grandma)

now big brother is sleeping

little brother is  jumping on the pillows -again....

grandma up to sweep a floor and do laundry...

Life goes on...